I know it's been along time since I've posted. I may be speaking only to myself, but if even one person reads this and benefits in even the smallest way, it is worth it. It's worth it, even if not, for as a writer, I am compelled, audience or no.:-)
Much has happened in the past two, almost three years, but rather than try to catch you up on everything, suffice it to say last year, 2011 was very challenging in that I broke my foot and almost died from an untreated condition whilst in hospital. From about September on, I have been slowly improving from the aftereffects of their negligence. I am here now due to a couple of brilliant doctors and my own belief in the Creator within. Which brings me to some stupendous healing news:
About three weeks ago, I received an email from one of those docs. It had his suggestions and observations of a sleep study report which was faxed to him. His take on things was scary, but encouraging. After an initial panic, I decided to watch something light and funny on Netflix, until my husband came home that night from work, to get my mind off of the scary parts.
As I watched the marquee on the Netflix home page scroll by with suggestions, the first one I saw was called " Fat, Sick, And Nearly Dead." It felt as though I was getting a cosmic message, so I watched it.
It's a documentary by an Australian man who was very wealthy and successful and had put on about an extra 100 pounds as he partied his way to the top. He decided to make a 60 day journey across America on a complete juice fast with a doctor's supervision. Along the way, he spoke to people about food, diet, their health, what he was doing and he inspired a lot of people. There's much more to it than that but, the thing that made so much sense to me was he piled high a big platter with the recommended daily allowance of fresh fruits and vegetables and asked if viewers could ever see themselves eating that much in one day. Of course he said no he couldn't, but he could certainly drink the juice made from them. There was a lot of information about micro-nutrients and a lot of input from physicians and nutritionists. There is a whole movement now in Australia and in the United States called Reboot Your Life. You can learn more about it at www.jointhereboot.com.
I knew I didn't want to do a complete fast, especially just on my own, but three weeks ago this past Sunday I started making freshly extracted juice from fruits and vegetables. I've been drinking from 24 to 32 ounces per day and have lost 5 pounds in three weeks while still eating my usual, regular meals. The doctors who have seen me, including a idney specialist, have all said my colour has greatly improved and I have noticed a big change in how I feel and even in how I intake supplemental oxygen. It doesn't feel so desperate now.
For years, I have tried to do everything medical science has recommended, but the one thing I knew I had turned over, mostly to my husband, Roger, was preparation of my own food. I knew deep down that it was important for me to take more of a responsibility for what I put in my body. Last year I made a contract with my body by promising it I would do everything I could to help it out. Until three weeks ago, when I feel I really took charge, I felt defeated and as though I was spinning my wheels not getting very far with weight loss and exercise.
The other thing I pledged to myself three weeks ago was to practice qi gong and do morning meditation at least Monday through Friday. I'm happy to say, I have stuck with both. This week will be my fourth week.
There is one other good thing which happened, recently, but I'll save that for the next post.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Affirmation
Just wanted to share an affirmation a friend, a wise woman, gave to me, today:
My blessed I AM presence is present in my whole being and, I shall reflect that in my whole life process.
That just about covers everything and is something I will be working with for the next while.
To my few followers...thanks for being here and please accept my apology for not keeping this up. It's been an interesting and long year. I would post more, but putting private stuff out here, any more, seems a bit scary. Time for more reflection. Thanks for your understanding.
My blessed I AM presence is present in my whole being and, I shall reflect that in my whole life process.
That just about covers everything and is something I will be working with for the next while.
To my few followers...thanks for being here and please accept my apology for not keeping this up. It's been an interesting and long year. I would post more, but putting private stuff out here, any more, seems a bit scary. Time for more reflection. Thanks for your understanding.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Why I Hated Camping at Nighttime
While a friend online has been relating her journey, almost daily, through surgery and chemo for ovarian and uterine cancer, bringing us all to tears, laughter, great joy and awe at her courage, I have had a very difficult time trying to put get up the energy to put two words together about my own challenges this year. I admire her fortitude and recognize that there is a time for everything...as I cannot sleep and the Muse has sort of struck, again and finally, here I am. It's been awhile and will take a while to catch things up, so I'll give an abridged edition for now and get to the reason for the title of this entry.
As for the treatment of depression, I have been off of zoloft for some time now. The only thing I take, at all, is xanax at night, but even that is becoming less frequent. I continue with biofeedback which has been really helpful, remembering those good, slow and steady deep breaths which kick in the right sympathetic system enabling me to sleep a wee bit longer and deeper than in previous times. I also continue to see the therapist who is very insightful and a delight to work with...he has helped me a lot when it comes to our kids. Our son, who is an alcoholic, had a breakdown and had to come live in our backyard in a small travel trailer which is full of storage items. Our daughter, the Grandson's mom, had forbidden him to be around his uncle, so it's been interesting, however, the Son In Law, whom I had pegged a bit wrongly, came through and sorted that out a bit, so the twain may now meet without any of us suffering her wrath. There are various other things going on with our son, but this catches you up, at least, sort of, right?:-)
So, why did I hate camping at night when I was a kid? Or, for that matter, now, if I were to try it? I always froze! I have always had a difficult time generating my own heat, probably because of a leaky heart valve, now repaired, but still has to work a bit hard at times. I was the youngest and my family loved to go camping. I did, too, but come nighttime, I dreaded climbing into pyjamas, taking off my shoes, and climbing into a thin sleeping bag with every little sharp pebble a mountain could produce poking me in the back, legs, shoulders, and arms. I don't know why I never said anything, but I do not remember ever having done so. In speaking with one of my sisters, recently, she couldn't remember my having ever said anything, either. She did wonder why I was always given the thinnest, least expensive sleeping bag to use and I thought it was because I was the youngest. Mom and Dad didn't even have sleeping bags until we were all almost raised. All I remember them having was a biggish bedroll and their own tent which my dad designed and mom sewed. It was ingenious. Shaped much like a tepee with a big loop at the top and a floor attached, the entire thing made from canvas. One had only to put a rope through the loop, climb a tree and secure the one end of the rope and repeat the process on an opposite tree. Then attached tent pegs to the loops sewn in round the bottom and voilà! One easy tent, theoretically. I don't remember it being that simple, but I think mom and dad were rather proud of it; the regular tent they'd had never pitched right and never stayed up, especially in the wind and rain. I have no idea how in the world my mom sewed unless by hand. It was too large, I think for her regular and only Elna sewing machine. Dad was brilliant when it came to designing and drawing out plans in his welding business, so he just transferred those skills to the tent design.
Dad hated pitching a tent. In the high Colorado Rockies there's a lot of rock under the dirt and, in those days, one didn't just give a tent a snap and have it pop up. It was made of canvas with wooden or aluminum poles and tent pegs and never fit together quite right on the first try. Someone would have to stand inside with the centre support pole stuffed up in the middle and try to lift the whole thing up whilst those on the outside scurried round to set the side poles which ran parallel to the ground, then connected with slanted vertical poles which one then secured in the ground with tent stakes through ropes with loops. Along each side and the back and front there were also loops attached directly to the tent which had to be staked. I forgot to say, none of this occurred until a trench had been dug all the way round where the tent would be pitched. This was to catch rain water to keep it from getting the inside of the tent, meaning us and all of our gear, wet. It always rains in the Rockies in the summer, you can count on it, every afternoon. Then the sun usually would come out, the little birds would renew their singing, the blue jays and camp robbers would scold us for food, the dog would go dig up an old pancake he'd buried, and we kids would resume our playing in the crick (that's "creek" to most folks)and mom would start thinking what to cook up for supper. Sometimes, though, the rain didn't go away. It would fall from giant cloud buckets stuck on the tips of the mountains, rivulets of cold water running wherever they found channels and invariably some would find a small breech or two in our trench, our moat of piled dirt, overrun it and commence an icy rinsing of anything in their paths: us, the poor dog, our clothes, sleeping bags, books, etc. Those nights we'd repair to the car and Dad's truck with the welding rig on the back. That was the one great thing about it...Dad could always start a fire no matter how wet the wood might get using his welding torch, however it was a sorry son-of-a-b who didn't remember to put dry wood away in the trunk of the car, under the truck or otherwise dry spot just for such emergencies. Being native Coloradans and longtime campers, mom and dad never forgot to keep some wood dry. I suppose it was partly, too, that they neither one did well without their morning coffee.
I loved the rain...the afternoon rain was usually gentle which grew into a a crescendo of raucous downpour tapering off to slight sprinkles, just enough to settle the dust and leave a delightful fresh scent. If it kept up for awhile, it was perfect reading-in-the-tent weather, especially if one was into Poe, Christie, and M.R.James stories. It often included mood-setting lightning and thunder which fuelled the imagination even more.
I still loved the rain at night,too, but NOT in the tent. If I thought I was cold before, it was nothing compared to being cold AND wet. Still, I don't remember saying anything. I remember thin socks, cold feet, cold nose poking out of my jacket which had a hood. I remember thinking the dog must be cold, too, and gave him my older jacket which no longer fit me. In Best Kid's Dog fashion, he put up with his front legs being stuffed in the arms and the hood being propped up over his ears, sitting in front of the campfire. He must've been roasting, but a picture of him shows a valiant smile just for his kids.
In the daytime, braving the early morning chill to run out to the campfire which mom or dad had already started going for the day, I have a memory which lingers even today, of their hot coffee scenting the air. I loved camping. After a breakfast of pancakes, eggs and bacon, the day held adventures, surprises, and untold peace and beauty which I craved and loved. My sisters and I would launch sailboats made of bark, twigs and paper sails in the crick, wading in our bare feet until the crisp mountain water became too cold, following our adventurous vessels, watching them take off, swirl in a maelstrom eddy just like the Argonauts, then catch the Express channel, rapidly bobbing beyond our reach. We would sit on the edge, then, and dig our toes into the squishy, soothing warmed-by-sunlight sand, the water so clear, the sunshine so bright, the pebbles in the water shown like a queen's gems and they were, to me, the most precious because they were Nature's gems.
Somewhere on one of those camping trips, when I was fairly young, probably about 5 or 6, I asked my dad as we walked along in the forest, why people thought they had to go in a church to talk to God; why didn't they just come outside to the forest. He told me he didn't know, but the forest and its critters were a good enough place as anywhere he knew and I have never disagreed with his assessment.
After a lunch of sandwiches and chips, my brother and sisters might go for a hike, taking the dog with them. If we were running low on ice for the ice box or other supplies, we might all pile in the car and drive to the nearest town.
Staying in camp, in the warm afternoon, with the noon sun still fairly high in the sky, the tent would get too warm, so I'd find a cool granite boulder to sit upon with a good book. Sometimes we would all go for hikes, but I couldn't keep up very well, being so much younger, so I tried to stay in camp as often as possible. If I were lucky, I'd have a bag of salted sunflower seeds and maybe a bottle of coca cola along with a new Classics Illustrated Comic to while away an hour or two. My clothes would be dry, the sleeping bags hanging out in the sun and there'd be no rain. I'd find a special flower for my mom, remembering it was against the law to pick a columbine, the state flower, but bring her others for a paper cup vase of water on the picnic table. The days were great and even the evening as we'd gather around the campfire first for supper, then later for hot cocoa and toasted bread. We would sing, dad played his banjo or fiddle and it was a very idyllic time until time for bed. When I had to leave that fire warmth, crawl into a now cold sleeping bag, toss and turn dodging more poking pebbles which seemed to have sprung up during the day, when the sun suddenly fell behind the mountains and night came on, I was reminded why I hated camping at night...I became another chilled-child-in a nylon-with-little-flannel sleeping bag, either too afraid to speak out or not aware of it being an option. My family were not mean beyond some teasing about being the "baby" now and then. Perhaps it was that, but I do know the thought of telling anyone I hated that sleeping bag and always froze just never crossed my mind. Wonder if the therapist will make something of that in our play on family dynamics!*smile* Thanks for reading!
As for the treatment of depression, I have been off of zoloft for some time now. The only thing I take, at all, is xanax at night, but even that is becoming less frequent. I continue with biofeedback which has been really helpful, remembering those good, slow and steady deep breaths which kick in the right sympathetic system enabling me to sleep a wee bit longer and deeper than in previous times. I also continue to see the therapist who is very insightful and a delight to work with...he has helped me a lot when it comes to our kids. Our son, who is an alcoholic, had a breakdown and had to come live in our backyard in a small travel trailer which is full of storage items. Our daughter, the Grandson's mom, had forbidden him to be around his uncle, so it's been interesting, however, the Son In Law, whom I had pegged a bit wrongly, came through and sorted that out a bit, so the twain may now meet without any of us suffering her wrath. There are various other things going on with our son, but this catches you up, at least, sort of, right?:-)
So, why did I hate camping at night when I was a kid? Or, for that matter, now, if I were to try it? I always froze! I have always had a difficult time generating my own heat, probably because of a leaky heart valve, now repaired, but still has to work a bit hard at times. I was the youngest and my family loved to go camping. I did, too, but come nighttime, I dreaded climbing into pyjamas, taking off my shoes, and climbing into a thin sleeping bag with every little sharp pebble a mountain could produce poking me in the back, legs, shoulders, and arms. I don't know why I never said anything, but I do not remember ever having done so. In speaking with one of my sisters, recently, she couldn't remember my having ever said anything, either. She did wonder why I was always given the thinnest, least expensive sleeping bag to use and I thought it was because I was the youngest. Mom and Dad didn't even have sleeping bags until we were all almost raised. All I remember them having was a biggish bedroll and their own tent which my dad designed and mom sewed. It was ingenious. Shaped much like a tepee with a big loop at the top and a floor attached, the entire thing made from canvas. One had only to put a rope through the loop, climb a tree and secure the one end of the rope and repeat the process on an opposite tree. Then attached tent pegs to the loops sewn in round the bottom and voilà! One easy tent, theoretically. I don't remember it being that simple, but I think mom and dad were rather proud of it; the regular tent they'd had never pitched right and never stayed up, especially in the wind and rain. I have no idea how in the world my mom sewed unless by hand. It was too large, I think for her regular and only Elna sewing machine. Dad was brilliant when it came to designing and drawing out plans in his welding business, so he just transferred those skills to the tent design.
Dad hated pitching a tent. In the high Colorado Rockies there's a lot of rock under the dirt and, in those days, one didn't just give a tent a snap and have it pop up. It was made of canvas with wooden or aluminum poles and tent pegs and never fit together quite right on the first try. Someone would have to stand inside with the centre support pole stuffed up in the middle and try to lift the whole thing up whilst those on the outside scurried round to set the side poles which ran parallel to the ground, then connected with slanted vertical poles which one then secured in the ground with tent stakes through ropes with loops. Along each side and the back and front there were also loops attached directly to the tent which had to be staked. I forgot to say, none of this occurred until a trench had been dug all the way round where the tent would be pitched. This was to catch rain water to keep it from getting the inside of the tent, meaning us and all of our gear, wet. It always rains in the Rockies in the summer, you can count on it, every afternoon. Then the sun usually would come out, the little birds would renew their singing, the blue jays and camp robbers would scold us for food, the dog would go dig up an old pancake he'd buried, and we kids would resume our playing in the crick (that's "creek" to most folks)and mom would start thinking what to cook up for supper. Sometimes, though, the rain didn't go away. It would fall from giant cloud buckets stuck on the tips of the mountains, rivulets of cold water running wherever they found channels and invariably some would find a small breech or two in our trench, our moat of piled dirt, overrun it and commence an icy rinsing of anything in their paths: us, the poor dog, our clothes, sleeping bags, books, etc. Those nights we'd repair to the car and Dad's truck with the welding rig on the back. That was the one great thing about it...Dad could always start a fire no matter how wet the wood might get using his welding torch, however it was a sorry son-of-a-b who didn't remember to put dry wood away in the trunk of the car, under the truck or otherwise dry spot just for such emergencies. Being native Coloradans and longtime campers, mom and dad never forgot to keep some wood dry. I suppose it was partly, too, that they neither one did well without their morning coffee.
I loved the rain...the afternoon rain was usually gentle which grew into a a crescendo of raucous downpour tapering off to slight sprinkles, just enough to settle the dust and leave a delightful fresh scent. If it kept up for awhile, it was perfect reading-in-the-tent weather, especially if one was into Poe, Christie, and M.R.James stories. It often included mood-setting lightning and thunder which fuelled the imagination even more.
I still loved the rain at night,too, but NOT in the tent. If I thought I was cold before, it was nothing compared to being cold AND wet. Still, I don't remember saying anything. I remember thin socks, cold feet, cold nose poking out of my jacket which had a hood. I remember thinking the dog must be cold, too, and gave him my older jacket which no longer fit me. In Best Kid's Dog fashion, he put up with his front legs being stuffed in the arms and the hood being propped up over his ears, sitting in front of the campfire. He must've been roasting, but a picture of him shows a valiant smile just for his kids.
In the daytime, braving the early morning chill to run out to the campfire which mom or dad had already started going for the day, I have a memory which lingers even today, of their hot coffee scenting the air. I loved camping. After a breakfast of pancakes, eggs and bacon, the day held adventures, surprises, and untold peace and beauty which I craved and loved. My sisters and I would launch sailboats made of bark, twigs and paper sails in the crick, wading in our bare feet until the crisp mountain water became too cold, following our adventurous vessels, watching them take off, swirl in a maelstrom eddy just like the Argonauts, then catch the Express channel, rapidly bobbing beyond our reach. We would sit on the edge, then, and dig our toes into the squishy, soothing warmed-by-sunlight sand, the water so clear, the sunshine so bright, the pebbles in the water shown like a queen's gems and they were, to me, the most precious because they were Nature's gems.
Somewhere on one of those camping trips, when I was fairly young, probably about 5 or 6, I asked my dad as we walked along in the forest, why people thought they had to go in a church to talk to God; why didn't they just come outside to the forest. He told me he didn't know, but the forest and its critters were a good enough place as anywhere he knew and I have never disagreed with his assessment.
After a lunch of sandwiches and chips, my brother and sisters might go for a hike, taking the dog with them. If we were running low on ice for the ice box or other supplies, we might all pile in the car and drive to the nearest town.
Staying in camp, in the warm afternoon, with the noon sun still fairly high in the sky, the tent would get too warm, so I'd find a cool granite boulder to sit upon with a good book. Sometimes we would all go for hikes, but I couldn't keep up very well, being so much younger, so I tried to stay in camp as often as possible. If I were lucky, I'd have a bag of salted sunflower seeds and maybe a bottle of coca cola along with a new Classics Illustrated Comic to while away an hour or two. My clothes would be dry, the sleeping bags hanging out in the sun and there'd be no rain. I'd find a special flower for my mom, remembering it was against the law to pick a columbine, the state flower, but bring her others for a paper cup vase of water on the picnic table. The days were great and even the evening as we'd gather around the campfire first for supper, then later for hot cocoa and toasted bread. We would sing, dad played his banjo or fiddle and it was a very idyllic time until time for bed. When I had to leave that fire warmth, crawl into a now cold sleeping bag, toss and turn dodging more poking pebbles which seemed to have sprung up during the day, when the sun suddenly fell behind the mountains and night came on, I was reminded why I hated camping at night...I became another chilled-child-in a nylon-with-little-flannel sleeping bag, either too afraid to speak out or not aware of it being an option. My family were not mean beyond some teasing about being the "baby" now and then. Perhaps it was that, but I do know the thought of telling anyone I hated that sleeping bag and always froze just never crossed my mind. Wonder if the therapist will make something of that in our play on family dynamics!*smile* Thanks for reading!
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Giving Thanks Meditation ca 1989
Amongst the strife and challenges, I am finally to the point where I can muster a bit of energy for spiritual work. I recently found a version of the following which I wrote around 1989. I am going to use it for a guide to get me started.
Giving Thanks Meditation – circa 1989
(personal names have been removed)
I start by seeing a candle flame burning steadily within the very centre of my heart. I feel the warmth of it bathing my heart and body. As I watch, it grows spilling into the rest of my body until I am diffused with Light. There is a great feeling of relief and happiness as I let the Light spread through my body. My shoulders drop; my hands are relaxed in my lap, my eyes closed. As the Light grows within me, I become surrounded by a sphere of the same Light without. With my fingertips and toes tingling with the radiating warm glow of Cosmic energy, I become a sphere of Light, moving, walking, breathing, driving, talking and sleeping within this ball of Cosmic Light.
I turn to greet the members of my family starting with my household. I reach out to each one; reaching out, our hands touch and they receive the Light which fills them until their sphere is fused with mine, so that we are encompassed within two, interlinked balls of Light. I travel on with them, two Light beings, full of joy, happiness, health, and boundless energy. Each member of our family is thus greeted and brought into the Circle of Light, travelling on to greet the next until we are one large circle of family: (List names of those included;) with luminous eyes and radiant smiles we greet each other with much hugging, exclamations of joy and kisses of love. We are full of love, joy, and peace.
As I move on, I stop by the homes of friends to leave them their sphere of Light to heal, protect, and love. Wherever we go on our daily journeys, we each carry that Light with us touching those around us, passing on the Light until our entire world becomes filled with Light, joy, and peace.
I then come back to the circle of family and bring each family pet to the centre. I see them arranged on a carpeted circle of steps, with my beloved, now-passed on (insert name) at the top. (Continue with listing as many as you wish to include.) Each of them radiates with that special unconditional love for which we all love them so much. They all glow with health and Cosmic Love within our circle of Light where we dance with joy, clasping each other’s hands in Love. Here, too, I greet with longing and peace, those humans and animals who have passed on: (list here.)
Once I have seen us join in the circle, I come back to my house and begin to see it filled with Light. I visualize a giant can filled with Light being poured out over the roof of my house, coating it as a painter coats a wall. I see this Light becoming a river flowing from my house to include the whole neighbourhood, then the town, then the state and then the continent, spreading, spreading Light to every corner, leaving no trace of the darkness of anger, fear, and hatred, the whole of our planet becomes encircled with Light, until I also see another giant can upended over our Mother Earth, spilling its contents labelled Love, Joy, and Peace into every house, hovel, building, cave, tree, rock, stream, grass, four-legged animal, winged creature and water being of our beloved home planet; dispelling all strife, disharmony, fear, and anger; bringing Peace Profound to all it touches; being spread by all it touches, just as a flowing river overflows its banks, linking all it touches with its cool, damp, life-giving force. I travel out into the Universe, light as a feather, a ball of Light energy, moving with ease, with no visible distance or time, viewing Earth from above, an Earth encircled and bathed in a bright, healing Light; truly a global village of Light beings, radiating Peace and Goodwill to the entire Universe. So mote it be!
Giving Thanks Meditation – circa 1989
(personal names have been removed)
I start by seeing a candle flame burning steadily within the very centre of my heart. I feel the warmth of it bathing my heart and body. As I watch, it grows spilling into the rest of my body until I am diffused with Light. There is a great feeling of relief and happiness as I let the Light spread through my body. My shoulders drop; my hands are relaxed in my lap, my eyes closed. As the Light grows within me, I become surrounded by a sphere of the same Light without. With my fingertips and toes tingling with the radiating warm glow of Cosmic energy, I become a sphere of Light, moving, walking, breathing, driving, talking and sleeping within this ball of Cosmic Light.
I turn to greet the members of my family starting with my household. I reach out to each one; reaching out, our hands touch and they receive the Light which fills them until their sphere is fused with mine, so that we are encompassed within two, interlinked balls of Light. I travel on with them, two Light beings, full of joy, happiness, health, and boundless energy. Each member of our family is thus greeted and brought into the Circle of Light, travelling on to greet the next until we are one large circle of family: (List names of those included;) with luminous eyes and radiant smiles we greet each other with much hugging, exclamations of joy and kisses of love. We are full of love, joy, and peace.
As I move on, I stop by the homes of friends to leave them their sphere of Light to heal, protect, and love. Wherever we go on our daily journeys, we each carry that Light with us touching those around us, passing on the Light until our entire world becomes filled with Light, joy, and peace.
I then come back to the circle of family and bring each family pet to the centre. I see them arranged on a carpeted circle of steps, with my beloved, now-passed on (insert name) at the top. (Continue with listing as many as you wish to include.) Each of them radiates with that special unconditional love for which we all love them so much. They all glow with health and Cosmic Love within our circle of Light where we dance with joy, clasping each other’s hands in Love. Here, too, I greet with longing and peace, those humans and animals who have passed on: (list here.)
Once I have seen us join in the circle, I come back to my house and begin to see it filled with Light. I visualize a giant can filled with Light being poured out over the roof of my house, coating it as a painter coats a wall. I see this Light becoming a river flowing from my house to include the whole neighbourhood, then the town, then the state and then the continent, spreading, spreading Light to every corner, leaving no trace of the darkness of anger, fear, and hatred, the whole of our planet becomes encircled with Light, until I also see another giant can upended over our Mother Earth, spilling its contents labelled Love, Joy, and Peace into every house, hovel, building, cave, tree, rock, stream, grass, four-legged animal, winged creature and water being of our beloved home planet; dispelling all strife, disharmony, fear, and anger; bringing Peace Profound to all it touches; being spread by all it touches, just as a flowing river overflows its banks, linking all it touches with its cool, damp, life-giving force. I travel out into the Universe, light as a feather, a ball of Light energy, moving with ease, with no visible distance or time, viewing Earth from above, an Earth encircled and bathed in a bright, healing Light; truly a global village of Light beings, radiating Peace and Goodwill to the entire Universe. So mote it be!
Monday, January 18, 2010
Semi-downer Update
Over a month since last I posted. My apologies. It has been interesting. Christmas went better than I expected as our daughter will not allow our son to be around her or her family, plus her in-laws came down for the day. We went to her house, before they for there, to see M-the grandson open his presents and have breakfast. We then went back to our house for an early dinner with my brother. My Rog made the whole meal except for pies. I actually got it together enough to make my famous pumpkin pies and they turned out pretty good. Later that afternoon, we went to our son's house and had a really good time with him and his partner and her 8 year old son as well as her mom who was visiting (I wish she lived here!)
After Christmas went pretty well, too. I had a red letter day in there somewhere...the first day I drove myself somewhere since starting on the meds. That felt good.
I continue to have the odd attack now and then; not sure why, but xanax is still helping, though not at night. It has lost its efficacy in helping me to sleep, so I've a call into my new doc for advice.
We upped the zoloft to 75mg last week and to 100mg as of today. I hope I start feeling more effects from it. At the moment, I have a hard time getting motivated to do anything except sit at the computer or go lie down. I had a bug, or something I ate didn't sit well over the weekend, so I know I feel worn out from that and still feel a little under the weather, but I also feel a deep concern that I am not getting out of the house on my own. My Rog says the weather doesn't help as well. It's been cold for weeks with snow on the ground still and the thought of packing around an oxygen bottle which is heavy makes me feel defeated before I even step out the door.
I had one session with the therapist after Christmas; the one just before was cancelled as he was called out for emergency response for the thirty people the hospital told would lose their jobs after the 1st of January. It put things into perspective when I was disappointed about not seeing him to prepare for Christmas day family stuff, but then it's all relative. (No pun intended.:-)
The last session felt more like meeting a good friend for coffee...a kind of mutual admiration society. He told me his wife loved the necklace I made for her and that I had inspired him to the point that he went home and made jewellery for all of his family members. I really like him, but we didn't talk about what I think I need help working on, etc. I have a call into him, today, to talk with him about it. I have the names of two other therapists I may see instead. I want some real help with what is causing the depression and anxiety. I do have three books to check out, recommended to me by a therapist friend, one of which is a workbook which I think will be very helpful.
Sorry if this feels like a downer of an update. I still am better than I was and I am going to try not to give the negative so much "press" time as I do believe we attract with our words. So, some good news...I was able to mentally get myself to do about 12 minutes of qi gong this morning AND wash my hair. I have washed my hair every day of my life with few exceptions. Since this all started, it's been once or twice a week. For awhile I thought it was just that my scalp and hair had less oil and I could tolerate it better. Now, I see it as one more sign of depression, so getting it washed first thing in the morning is a good thing.
As ever, thanks for listening!
After Christmas went pretty well, too. I had a red letter day in there somewhere...the first day I drove myself somewhere since starting on the meds. That felt good.
I continue to have the odd attack now and then; not sure why, but xanax is still helping, though not at night. It has lost its efficacy in helping me to sleep, so I've a call into my new doc for advice.
We upped the zoloft to 75mg last week and to 100mg as of today. I hope I start feeling more effects from it. At the moment, I have a hard time getting motivated to do anything except sit at the computer or go lie down. I had a bug, or something I ate didn't sit well over the weekend, so I know I feel worn out from that and still feel a little under the weather, but I also feel a deep concern that I am not getting out of the house on my own. My Rog says the weather doesn't help as well. It's been cold for weeks with snow on the ground still and the thought of packing around an oxygen bottle which is heavy makes me feel defeated before I even step out the door.
I had one session with the therapist after Christmas; the one just before was cancelled as he was called out for emergency response for the thirty people the hospital told would lose their jobs after the 1st of January. It put things into perspective when I was disappointed about not seeing him to prepare for Christmas day family stuff, but then it's all relative. (No pun intended.:-)
The last session felt more like meeting a good friend for coffee...a kind of mutual admiration society. He told me his wife loved the necklace I made for her and that I had inspired him to the point that he went home and made jewellery for all of his family members. I really like him, but we didn't talk about what I think I need help working on, etc. I have a call into him, today, to talk with him about it. I have the names of two other therapists I may see instead. I want some real help with what is causing the depression and anxiety. I do have three books to check out, recommended to me by a therapist friend, one of which is a workbook which I think will be very helpful.
Sorry if this feels like a downer of an update. I still am better than I was and I am going to try not to give the negative so much "press" time as I do believe we attract with our words. So, some good news...I was able to mentally get myself to do about 12 minutes of qi gong this morning AND wash my hair. I have washed my hair every day of my life with few exceptions. Since this all started, it's been once or twice a week. For awhile I thought it was just that my scalp and hair had less oil and I could tolerate it better. Now, I see it as one more sign of depression, so getting it washed first thing in the morning is a good thing.
As ever, thanks for listening!
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Getting better...for real!
Sorry it has taken me so long to post, again, esp. after that last post. A lot has happened. Today is the tenth day since we bumped up the zoloft to 50mg. A friend's psychiatrist told her it takes ten days to feel anything and thirty for it to really kick in. I can definitely feel the difference and I know Rog does, too.
I have had some rough days in between and a few attacks, but not like before. The worst, most recently, was the morning we went to meet our new doctor. I didn't slept the whole night, I was so nervous. Xanax didn't even make a dent and I didn't take another all night because I didn't want to be groggy when we met her. I was rushing around, trying to get ready, voicing my fears when Rog told me to take another one. I think he thought we might not make it out the door, I was so anxious. Part of it was because of the weather. We'd had several inches of snow, which is very unusual for here, and the roads were still packed with ice. We'd also had record-breaking lows of 10 below. We had to go in his big pickup truck, plus our driveway was packed with snow-ice. I fell on ice once and broke open the back of my head, so I do NOT like walking on it. Wearing my Birkenstocks with Rog carrying my oxygen bag, we crept out to the truck. Finally, we got to the truck, he opened the door, and set a small plastic step-stool down for me; otherwise I couldn't get in...my 5'2" just won't reach. I was even afraid to step up on the stool, it was so icy. By then, I was sure we were going to be late. With Roger's help, I managed to get in and settled. As it was, we walked in the door right at 8a, our appt. time!
After filling out papers to have our records transferred (YES! No more bully doc for us!), they took us in a room to take our vitals, then told us the doc was late as her kids' school bus wouldn't start and she had to wait with them until another came. We didn't have to wait too long and by the time she came I was settled down from the xanax and relief to just be there.
She is very nice, astute, asked a bunch of good questions and, most importantly, she listened well. When I said something about our old doc, by name, she looked me in the eye and said she'd been a partner of his. I wasn't sure whether to say, "so you know" or ask if that would be a problem. Before I could decide, she said they'd "had their differences" now and then. So I knew she knows what I meant. I told her I put great credence in what a doctor tells me, if I trust them, and everything I hear goes straight to my heart, so I need a doc who will be careful how they phrase things and also one who will give me credit for knowing my own body. I elaborated a bit on what happened when the bully didn't do so.
We took care of prescriptions, she examined Rog and asked him questions, too, then told him he didn't need to come back for six months and I needed to see her in three, as long as we were doing okay. I felt so relieved and we were both impressed and pleased. After waiting so long to do something about getting a new doc, then going through with it made me feel so good.
One of the main ways I know the meds are helping is I have noticed a BIG difference in Roger. What it must've been like for him all this time, living with me being depressed and not even knowing it...just being crabby, etc., well, yes and genuinely ill, at times. Anyway, I feel I am getting my husband back. He had withdrawn and spent much time on his computer, still does, but now we talk, really talk and laugh and discuss and enjoy one another's company, again. I am not whining to him the minute he walks through the door, begging him to rub my shoulders, feed me, and/or talk to me. That one always gets him. He'll say "what do you want to talk about?" I'd say, "Anything, just talk!" Well, a girlfriend will understand...we just think differently. I do know, though, that a part of his frustration wasmy the depression and the effect it has had on both of us. So for now, I will say, I still feel fragile, BUT much better and I have some joy back in my married life which is really wonderful. I know I have a long way to go, but I keep getting these neat glimmers of who I really AM and can't wait to get her back!
I have had some rough days in between and a few attacks, but not like before. The worst, most recently, was the morning we went to meet our new doctor. I didn't slept the whole night, I was so nervous. Xanax didn't even make a dent and I didn't take another all night because I didn't want to be groggy when we met her. I was rushing around, trying to get ready, voicing my fears when Rog told me to take another one. I think he thought we might not make it out the door, I was so anxious. Part of it was because of the weather. We'd had several inches of snow, which is very unusual for here, and the roads were still packed with ice. We'd also had record-breaking lows of 10 below. We had to go in his big pickup truck, plus our driveway was packed with snow-ice. I fell on ice once and broke open the back of my head, so I do NOT like walking on it. Wearing my Birkenstocks with Rog carrying my oxygen bag, we crept out to the truck. Finally, we got to the truck, he opened the door, and set a small plastic step-stool down for me; otherwise I couldn't get in...my 5'2" just won't reach. I was even afraid to step up on the stool, it was so icy. By then, I was sure we were going to be late. With Roger's help, I managed to get in and settled. As it was, we walked in the door right at 8a, our appt. time!
After filling out papers to have our records transferred (YES! No more bully doc for us!), they took us in a room to take our vitals, then told us the doc was late as her kids' school bus wouldn't start and she had to wait with them until another came. We didn't have to wait too long and by the time she came I was settled down from the xanax and relief to just be there.
She is very nice, astute, asked a bunch of good questions and, most importantly, she listened well. When I said something about our old doc, by name, she looked me in the eye and said she'd been a partner of his. I wasn't sure whether to say, "so you know" or ask if that would be a problem. Before I could decide, she said they'd "had their differences" now and then. So I knew she knows what I meant. I told her I put great credence in what a doctor tells me, if I trust them, and everything I hear goes straight to my heart, so I need a doc who will be careful how they phrase things and also one who will give me credit for knowing my own body. I elaborated a bit on what happened when the bully didn't do so.
We took care of prescriptions, she examined Rog and asked him questions, too, then told him he didn't need to come back for six months and I needed to see her in three, as long as we were doing okay. I felt so relieved and we were both impressed and pleased. After waiting so long to do something about getting a new doc, then going through with it made me feel so good.
One of the main ways I know the meds are helping is I have noticed a BIG difference in Roger. What it must've been like for him all this time, living with me being depressed and not even knowing it...just being crabby, etc., well, yes and genuinely ill, at times. Anyway, I feel I am getting my husband back. He had withdrawn and spent much time on his computer, still does, but now we talk, really talk and laugh and discuss and enjoy one another's company, again. I am not whining to him the minute he walks through the door, begging him to rub my shoulders, feed me, and/or talk to me. That one always gets him. He'll say "what do you want to talk about?" I'd say, "Anything, just talk!" Well, a girlfriend will understand...we just think differently. I do know, though, that a part of his frustration was
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Some fun and a bumpy road
I had a great session with L on Friday. My assignment had been to show him a new piece of jewellery I made. I told him I'd make a necklace for his wife. My one-of-a-kind custom jewellery designs are made through intuitive guidance as I *tune* into my client and the gemstones. (My company is StonePeople Designs.) I didn't even know his wife's name, nor colouring, nothing except he thinks she looks prettiest in pink!
I had been having trouble going into the office/jewellery room as I'd spent all of my days and evenings in there until recently and it feels like a cage. I had a real aversion to it recently; hence the assignment. So I sat down, finally, on Wednesday to see what I could come up with. It took several tries, always with the beads letting me know if they liked where I put them. Finally, I came up with a design using rose quartz and small fresh water cultured pearls with glass beads of green with swirlies of purple when the light hits them just right. There are also some small, finishing beads of green, pink and white swirled together.
L really liked it and assured me his wife would, too. He then showed it to his office manager who said, "Oh it looks just like her. She will love it!" Turns out his wife is blond and loves pastel colours, esp. pink and green, so that made me feel really good. I guess I still have the "touch."
That evening, our grandson came over while his parents went to a holiday party. I had a tiny bit of anxiety at the thought of having him over in the evening, esp. after such a busy day for me. It was the first day I'd driven myself anywhere since I started taking antidepressants. It turned out fine. We had a lot of fun and he went home around 9p, after teaching "mama" how to play a star wars video game with him on our tv. First time I've ever played an active video game; it was a lot of fun. He is so good at it; it was funny; he'd pat me on the back, tell me I was doing a good job (at the beginner's level!) and he'd moved me up to the No.1 position on his team!
By then, I was feeling very tired and my intestines had been uncomfortable. I never slept that night, Friday, nor the next. I don't know if it's a side effect of zoloft kicking in, but both nights were rough roads...up almost every hour, sitting in the bathroom, defecating more than seemed possible for one body. Zoloft at night along with a whole tablet of xanax did nothing to help me relax and sleep last night. That old joke about the asshole ruling over the mind and the rest of the body came to mind.:-) The only sleep I did get was when Rog actually put his hand on my abdomen and held me...it helped me relax..his hands are always so warm and soothing.
There is not as much pain from it, today. I did eat out twice last week which may have upset things as it was the first meat (chicken and bacon, separately) that I have had in about two months. I will call the doc, tomorrow, if it hasn't improved. I hope I sleep tonight. I am only having oatmeal and toast with maybe a little mint tea.
It made me realise how fragile I may still be. This afternoon, I was feeling so cruddy. I had a major panic attack which went off into the realms of "Oh, no, what if it's (name your malady!) What if I have to fight with the new doctor to convince her I know my own body? What if she insists on this and that!?" All the old PTSD from being bullied by my former doc. came up. There is nothing anyone has told me about the new doc which would indicate her being at all like that. Xanax has taken the edge off of, plus Rog was once again, quite helpful. And, so it goes. Learning to live in balance, again.
Thanks for listening!
I had been having trouble going into the office/jewellery room as I'd spent all of my days and evenings in there until recently and it feels like a cage. I had a real aversion to it recently; hence the assignment. So I sat down, finally, on Wednesday to see what I could come up with. It took several tries, always with the beads letting me know if they liked where I put them. Finally, I came up with a design using rose quartz and small fresh water cultured pearls with glass beads of green with swirlies of purple when the light hits them just right. There are also some small, finishing beads of green, pink and white swirled together.
L really liked it and assured me his wife would, too. He then showed it to his office manager who said, "Oh it looks just like her. She will love it!" Turns out his wife is blond and loves pastel colours, esp. pink and green, so that made me feel really good. I guess I still have the "touch."
That evening, our grandson came over while his parents went to a holiday party. I had a tiny bit of anxiety at the thought of having him over in the evening, esp. after such a busy day for me. It was the first day I'd driven myself anywhere since I started taking antidepressants. It turned out fine. We had a lot of fun and he went home around 9p, after teaching "mama" how to play a star wars video game with him on our tv. First time I've ever played an active video game; it was a lot of fun. He is so good at it; it was funny; he'd pat me on the back, tell me I was doing a good job (at the beginner's level!) and he'd moved me up to the No.1 position on his team!
By then, I was feeling very tired and my intestines had been uncomfortable. I never slept that night, Friday, nor the next. I don't know if it's a side effect of zoloft kicking in, but both nights were rough roads...up almost every hour, sitting in the bathroom, defecating more than seemed possible for one body. Zoloft at night along with a whole tablet of xanax did nothing to help me relax and sleep last night. That old joke about the asshole ruling over the mind and the rest of the body came to mind.:-) The only sleep I did get was when Rog actually put his hand on my abdomen and held me...it helped me relax..his hands are always so warm and soothing.
There is not as much pain from it, today. I did eat out twice last week which may have upset things as it was the first meat (chicken and bacon, separately) that I have had in about two months. I will call the doc, tomorrow, if it hasn't improved. I hope I sleep tonight. I am only having oatmeal and toast with maybe a little mint tea.
It made me realise how fragile I may still be. This afternoon, I was feeling so cruddy. I had a major panic attack which went off into the realms of "Oh, no, what if it's (name your malady!) What if I have to fight with the new doctor to convince her I know my own body? What if she insists on this and that!?" All the old PTSD from being bullied by my former doc. came up. There is nothing anyone has told me about the new doc which would indicate her being at all like that. Xanax has taken the edge off of, plus Rog was once again, quite helpful. And, so it goes. Learning to live in balance, again.
Thanks for listening!
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